Sexuality and intimacy

Let’s talk about sex

Sexuality and blood cancer treatment: it seems that a lot of people don’t want to talk about it. But rest assured that many people have the same questions you do about sexuality and intimacy.

It’s possible that your sex life will be impacted by your diagnosis and subsequent treatment. Here’s a brief overview on what might change and what adaptations you might need to make, so that you are prepared on what to expect. Remember that everyone’s diagnosis and treatment plan are different, so what you experience might be different to someone else.

There are many occasions where you’ll need to clarify something with your doctor or treating specialist. Don’t feel embarrassed: sex is a part of life, so how it’s impacted by your diagnosis is just another regular topic for discussion with your health professional.

How you might be feeling

When you’re first diagnosed with a blood cancer, it’s natural that your primary focus is on getting well. You may feel anxious at the thought of having sex after treatment, as you could be unsure about how you’ll perform or you might even feel self-conscious about being naked in front of your partner.

You might also find that other parts of your life are affected, like:

  • your feelings
  • your body’s production of the hormones that are needed for sexual response
  • your physical ability to give and receive sexual pleasure
  • your energy levels – if you’re feeling very fatigued from treatment, you probably won’t feel like having sex
  • if you’re a man, you may experience erectile difficulties
  • women might be experiencing menopausal symptoms.

Chemotherapy, radiotherapy and sex

The side effects of chemo and radiotherapy can take their roll, so your desire to have sex might be greatly reduced during treatment.

If you do feel up to having sex, remember to always use condoms during the seven days following a treatment session. This will decrease the risk of your partner being exposed to the chemo drugs, as they can be excreted in your bodily fluids. Condoms are also recommended as trying to fall pregnant during treatment is usually best avoided, as chemotherapy and radiotherapy could affect an unborn child.

Neutropenia

If you are neutropenic (have a low level of white cells, which fight infection) or have low platelet counts, you should always check with your doctor before getting the go-ahead to resume regular sex. If you’re in one of these groups, the risk of getting an infection is much higher.

Oral sex

Always use protection – that means a condom for men, and a dental dam or female condom for women. Also take care to be gentle, as excess force can cause abrasions (which need to be avoided if you’re at risk for infection).

Getting back into it

  • talk openly with your partner: discuss any concerns you may have about resuming sexual activity, and let them know if you need them to change anything that they typically do
  • be open to adapting and changing your routine
  • ask your partner how they feel about everything that’s happening: they might have concerns of their own
  • take it slow if you want to. You might like to explore different ways to achieve sexual pleasure and intimacy – sometimes just being touched by your partner can re-establish that intimate bond.
  • be patient
  • be wary of being too rough or vigorous. As mentioned earlier, vaginal and penile abrasions can become infected, so make sure you take it easy. Speak with your doctor if you are concerned about knowing your limits.

 

If you would like to learn more about how you can better deal with the emotional and physical side effects of treatment, chat to one of our Support Services Coordinators. They are all experienced health professionals, with qualifications in nursing and social work. Contact us on 1800 620 420 to be put in touch with someone in Queensland.

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